Hi, I’m Alyssa!
I’m so glad you’re here! Finding a therapist is both challenging and incredibly personal. I hope that as you read about me and the services I provide, I can help make this process easier for you. I am a faith-based counselor informed by attachment theory, neurobiology, interpersonal psychology, and theology. I am always learning something new. I strive to work with you in a way that honors the way our bodies are designed to heal and in a way that helps us grow closer to God. I hope that here you will learn about yourself, dear image bearer, and thus know more about God and how to commune with Him. I work closely with you to make Bostwick Counseling a place where all parts of you experience respect and care.
Safe.
My number one priority is your sense of safety. Safety is the prerequisite to any kind of healing or transformance, without it we deadend. The lack of safety is often what creates the suffering we find ourselves in that leads us into counseling to begin with. AEDP and experiential modalities, will guide our work together. This informs why we shift our attention to the in the moment experience of how we are working together and what you are feeling as we do so; in this, you and I will co-create the safety that will frame our work.
Connected
Research speaks about how transformance and wholeness comes when we are in connection with someone who can guide us as we process, in a way that gets us unstuck. Often trauma, anxiety, relational distress are cyclical and never quite end. We will work together to listen to your body, to allow the emotion to be experienced in co-regulation, to help it move to completion rather than continuously hitting repeat. Often what helps us get unstuck is to no longer be alone with what we are experiencing. This is informed by interpersonal psychology and attachment theory, so ultimately help you access your wired in resources and move into a place of relief and wholeness.
Authentic.
I don’t know how to do small talk, filter, or be disengenuous. What I can promise you is something real. There is a lot of fakeness in this world, and the research speaks to the fact that healing requires realness, a viscerally felt new experience. How a therapist shows up impacts your outcomes. This is why I so value being my full self so that you can find and be yours. I tend to be an empath, I feel deeply, I love fiercely, I often feel very protective of my people, I can get a bit sassy, and I nerd out. As I learn more about how God created us, the more I love being a therapist, and the more I love our relational Jesus.
specialty services
Therapy for Individuals and Couples to find transformance and wholeness. I specialize in experiential, attachment based, and emotion focused modes of therapy when working with individuals and couples (AEDP & EFT). I bring these approaches to help deepen into the innate resource driving connection within ourselves and others. I have experienced and research proves that our individualistic and intellectual society hinders our ability to thrive in life and in relationships. I work to remove barriers from ourselves, each other, and Christ. These barriers tend to create the symptoms that bring us into counseling- like anxiety and depression, relational distress, hypo/hypersexuality, addiction, etc. Some of my favorite areas to work are in the following.
Anxiety/Depression
I am so overwhelmed and feel like I’m stuck on a merry go round and can’t get off.
Trauma
I was told I couldn’t tell anyone, to hide— I don’t want to hide anymore.
Couples
We struggle to connect, I always feel like one small thing sets the fight off and most of the time I feel so alone in my marriage.
Sexual Health
I struggle with inorgasmia, grew up in purity culture, and I don’t feel I can be sexy and holy.
Or
I have watched porn since my uncle introduced me to it when I was 8 years old. My wife just found out and I need help.
Counseling for Pastors
I am not sure who to turn to and am not sure if counseling can help me, but I need someone to talk to. I know that what I am struggling with impacts the entire team and all I want to do is hide.
Religious Trauma
I was taught to follow the rules, not question anything. But I had a lot of questions, saw a lot of things in the church and in the sermons that didn’t feel right. I learned that the me with my questions did not fit, but I need someone to talk to. I want to belong but I don’t want to belong to the people who have injured people close to me.
Testimonials
Our time with Alyssa has been life changing! She is the very best in her field! She is warm, sincere, and compassionate.. meeting us exactly where we are with every session. She creates an inviting space that feels extremely safe and trustworthy. She has fostered healing through self-exploration. Alyssa has a vast skillset and provides us with practical tools to implement. We find our therapeutic relationship with Alyssa invaluable!
— Sex & Trauma Couple
April, 2022
Our time with Alyssa has been life changing! She is the very best in her field! She is warm, sincere, and compassionate.. meeting us exactly where we are with every session. She creates an inviting space that feels extremely safe and trustworthy. She has fostered healing through self-exploration. Alyssa has a vast skillset and provides us with practical tools to implement. We find our therapeutic relationship with Alyssa invaluable!
— Sex & Trauma Couple
April, 2022
Our time with Alyssa has been life changing! She is the very best in her field! She is warm, sincere, and compassionate.. meeting us exactly where we are with every session. She creates an inviting space that feels extremely safe and trustworthy. She has fostered healing through self-exploration. Alyssa has a vast skillset and provides us with practical tools to implement. We find our therapeutic relationship with Alyssa invaluable!
— Sex & Trauma Couple
April, 2022
If you are looking for a competent therapist in individual therapy or couple’s counseling, you have found the right place! I am passionate about helping people live fully alive, finding ways that they might be restricted and being released from that. This might be individual work and managing complex family dynamics, post childhood trauma or in couple’s counseling finding a fulfilling sexual relationship. If you’re ready, please go to Contact and message me!